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aphexangel:

deltastic:

tomithejellyfish:

64-littlewhitethings:

shane-the-mane:

64-littlewhitethings:

creekdontrise:

64-littlewhitethings:

shane-the-mane:

curly-headed-fuck:

nickkphoenix:

PREACH IT BABY LUIS

Damn nigga. That’s so fucking accurate.

I request the highest of fives.

why does this have so many notes

it’s kind of horrible

is it really that hard for people to accept that someone can like them as a friend but not necessarily in a romantic sense? last time i checked i’m not obligated to date people i like just because i like them. the job resume analogy is BS because you just cannot compare the two— you don’t have to be in love with someone to hire them to do some menial work. this reeks of “i’ve been nice to you, so you owe me.” you don’t have to feel anything for anyone to hire them. what kind of comparison is that? i like how this is strictly pointed at girls, too, like we don’t have the right to turn someone down because they’ve been good to us. last time i checked, dating is something you do out of love, not out of obligation. if she likes you as a friend, respect that. you cannot force or expect her to love you because that’s unreasonable, and making the assumption that the person she does choose to be with will be bad for her because she cannot make decisions for herself apparently is kind of really… disappointing. is this what people really believe? if you really think the person you’ve fallen for is this incapable of making their own decisions maybe you should reevaluate your taste in potential lovers, anyway. this entire thing gives off this fantastic ~*I know better than you do because I’m a NICE person and so you OWE it to me to love me*~ vibe.

she doesn’t owe you shit for being a decent human being.

that’s all.

I agree with above poster. Just because you have an ‘application’ you think is pretty tight doesn’t mean it holds a whole lot of water in yknow. The real world with real women who have real expectations. That aren’t equatable to a job market. Because in my personal experience being compared to an employer is the most romantic analogy I can think of. Totally.

laura has good input also

This isn’t saying that when a person likes you that you have to date them or owes you anything. It’s saying that when someone has all of the qualifications, they possess and sometimes even excel past the expectations, somehow doesn’t make the cut. Yet, gets calls and texts about the person the girl is dating. Trust me. I know. This has happened to me quite a few times. “Oh you’re a nice guy but no.” I was always giving and never given anything inreturn. And if you’ve ever been in that situation, you would know. But being on the other end, doesn’t mean you have the right to treat people like shit. There is no “She owes this or that” in this. It means that if you can’t give, don’t take. Cause that’s bullshit. And romantics? None of that has anything to do with this. Are you stupid? This why he wrote this. You both need to read a little closer, analyze the post and then say something. Jesus fucking christ.

buddy I’ve been rejected as much as the next person but I don’t bitch to the internet about how I was the ~*perfect person*~ for her but didn’t make the cut. did you read my post? was there any need to resort to calling me stupid? I think we’re reading this a bit closer than you are, having been on both ends of this topic. if you’re expecting a girl to ‘give and take’, you’re assuming she’s not allowed to accept men being decent to her unless she has to do something in return. to be supportive then be pissy she doesn’t find you a suitable mate then get upset over that is illogical and disrespectful to her actual expectations of you, as a friend. if you find that you are giving everything to a girl and feel unappreciated maybe this is a topic you should be discussing with the girl in question, not generalizing females in a really condescending way to the whole internet. yes, this does imply she owes it to him— he’s clearly expecting her to want to be with him. seriously, maybe this is just a female-identifying thing, but if I had a dollar every time someone thought I owed them any kind of love just for respecting my space I’d be a rich woman indeed. I’m sorry you got rejected, but so has everybody else on the planet, and we deal with it instead of telling the world how wrong it is for a girl to like someone just fine as a friend but not be interested in them romantically, then calling it ‘bullshit’ because they want something she does not.

do you see what I’m getting at? there are two sides to this coin. I can understand feeling upset because you think you were perfect for her, but by no means do you deserve romantic affection. she should not be guilt tripped for not loving you. and what was the point of the “we’ll hire somebody else who is far less qualified and probably an alcoholic” bit except to point out that if she’s not choosing you, she’s making the wrong decision and can’t decide for herself?

this is kind of sad, actually.

Holy fuck, perfect sense.

Oh man, love the above posts. This kinda stuff pisses me off, as it’s happened to me constantly xD;; I’m so paranoid that people are only being nice to me to get something out of me, regardless of their gender, and so it’s become really hard for me to accept anything from anyone without being a total spazz about it.

I know guys cry a lot about “wah, girl I likes complains to me about her douchebag boyfriend” kinda thing. And yeah, maybe that sucks- but that’s kinda part of being a friend? Listening to things peeps are upset about? And honestly, guys need to stop acting like a martyr about that stuff. Don’t like that a girl calls and complains to you about X Y or Z? Think she’s stupid? You know.. you have a magical option: DON’T BE FRIENDS WITH HER. Don’t pick up the phone. Don’t talk to her anymore. Done. Finito~ Take some responsibility for the friendships and relationships you’re in, guy! If it hurts you that bad- stop self-flagellating and go talk to peeps who make you feel good.

Geezus why are there so many people who feel like they’re obligated to talk to people who make them upset, regardless of the situation? Surround yourself with positive people and things, brah.

To the OP,

Please grow a set of balls and realize that a girl can like you as a friend and it at no point has to metamorphize into a romantic relationship.  Just because you like something or someone doesn’t mean you want to have sex with it/him/her.  It sounds like you got rejected and are overall butthurt about it, so instead of taking the mature route, brushing off and moving on, keeping the friend to talk about girls with once you DO land a girlfriend (though likely with your lack of confidence in yourself this is an impossibility at the current time) you whine about it here like a pansy thirteen year old with no life experience.

A girl didn’t want you as a boyfriend.

Big fucking deal.

There are literally billions more, but nobody will want you until you get over yourself.

Sincerely,

   The rest of the world.

Ahhh. Yes. Here are some reasons why I’ve done the “I like you as a friend, but don’t want you as a boyfriend”:

1. Nice Guy Syndrome. Just because you’re a nice guy, I don’t owe you anything. In fact, dealing with an asshole is easier than dealing with a “nice guy” because assholes don’t play the victim. I won’t feel guilted into changing my behaviors because you get butt hurt over something piddly.
2. You have a characteristic that while you are a great friend, I know I would fight with you endlessly about it OR get tired of you being around.
3. You are a good enough friend that I would be really upset to lose you in the case of a breakup. Don’t lie to yourself, no one can be good friends after a breakup.
4. While I’m mentally attracted to you, you’ve never presented yourself as a candidate. Fun fact! Don’t hold your breath if you think girls will just “come around” to see what a great guy you are. Assholes get more girls because they go after those girls. Moreover, girls with guy friends are used to an underlying sexual tension. I’ve gotten good at ignoring that sort of thing unless it’s addressed directly because it would be super awkward forever.
5. I’m not physically attracted to you. Sorry. There’s no real solution in that, but it happens. Mentally, you’re fun, but physically, no chemistry. You might feel it, but I don’t.
6. Sometimes, especially in the case of people that go through abusive relationships, we don’t know what to do with really nice people. It reminds us of the honeymoon period of the abusive relationship and we’re extra on edge. Try having a relationship with that kind of anxiety all. the. time. Additionally, our self esteem is ravaged. There’s a lot of people that don’t really feel like they deserve a good and healthy relationship (or don’t think it’s possible to have). 
7. You’re ready for a long-term relationship and I’m not interested in that.

Too true.

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